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“Letting Go” Doesn’t Work

“Letting Go” Doesn’t Work

“Letting Go” as it pertains to past traumas, grief, and pain is a fool’s game.  It’s not possible.

We’ve all heard it, right?  “Just let go.” “Let it go!”  How does it make you feel when you hear this?  I know I feel angry, frustrated, and ashamed when I have heard this before.  Angry because it feels impossible (and it is, I’ll get to that in a second), frustrated because I don’t like not being able to do something, and ashamed because clearly my display of emotion or displeasure has had me commit a social faux pas and made another uncomfortable.

To me, “let go” as it pertains to trauma, grief, challenges, and pain, sounds like a plea to simply disengage this wounded part and separate from it.  To release it and throw it away.  And anyone who has ever experienced pain, which is every human ever, knows that to simply “let it go” or “release it” just isn’t possible.

There is only one thing to do and that is to transmute it. 

The definition of transmute, which has received a lot of attention and popularity in the current New Age-y atmosphere is this: to change in form, nature, or substance.

Transform is a synonym; however, I dislike it and don’t think it captures the essence of what I’m getting at here.  Transform is more like to change from the outside in, whereas transmute is from the inside out.  Transmutation involves completely changing, rearranging, and creating anew the subtle pieces of something.

Transformation allows us to shift the way something is done thereby influencing it to still maintain the same end goal or same method but without actually transmuting the core issue itself.  It’s simply creating a newer, more hospitable environment or method for the exact same thing to continue.  The thing, issue, substance, environment still remains the same, perhaps there’s been a superficial change.

So, what do we do?  We can’t “let it go,” we have to transmute it. What does that look like and how do we get there and why would we want that?

Trauma changes you on all levels – physiologically, emotionally, physically, mentally, energetically, and spiritually.  You are not the same person and nor will you ever be again.  Your DNA changes in response to the shock and stress.  Your identity shifts.  You now wear different masks or armors out of protection.  You view the world differently.  You have a new definition of self.  You have a bunch of feelings and emotions that are new and different and that you may feel ill-equipped to handle…  Basically, it just got real.

Many of us bypass this because it’s uncomfortable and because we aren’t shown how to be with ourselves in this capacity, not to mention the fact that it’s socially unacceptable to display grief or other strong emotions.

The things that have happened to you, are yours now.  They’re forever part of you and you’re never going to be the same again… So, why would you just “let it go?”

You can no more easily “let go” of your trauma than you can your pinky or your right ear.

What we can do is change our relationship to it.  We can let go of our current paradigm, our current status quo, and current way of viewing ourselves, the world, and our “baggage.”

There’s nothing wrong with you, first and foremost.  I’ve had so many clients plead to me, “Why can’t I just ‘let this go? My life would be so much easier if I could just let it go!” And they carry this stuff around with them like some kind of Scarlett letter.  There’s a lot of shame, anxiety, guilt, fear, and internal conflict.  This state of inner turmoil takes them away from the present moment and is completely dis-empowering.

Contrary to what we may think, it’s not the actual traumatic event, the grief, or our challenges that create the dis-ease we experience. It’s the resistance to this new, “wounded” piece of us.  Anything we resist amplifies and takes on a life of its own.

I don’t care if you’re a carpenter, a lawyer, an accountant, a shaman, or an intuitive coach, your purpose, your gifts, the way you are meant to be of service in the world is through your challenges.  The pathway to true ease and true nourishment and a life that feels fun and not something to just “get through” is within and the answers are revealed to you through the transmutation process, the rearrangement of your subtle pieces.

There is no other way.

Some tactics to use as you begin this process of inner alchemy to transmute your challenges into purpose include:

  • Employing all of the 7 Pieces of TRUE Healing (join my Facebook group for over 7 hours of amazing video lessons on these pieces).
  • Typically, things that cause a lot of pain in later life are because of unprocessed childhood events.  Think back to a time in your life when you felt this same way or similar and work from there.
  • Source from the body – use expressive arts and embodiment practices to stay connected to the body and learn from its wisdom during times of big emotions.
  • Give yourself permission to get clear and radically honest with yourself about what’s not working, what you want, how you desire to feel, and any perceived obstacles.  Give yourself permission to heal and release the false identify of yourself you’ve adopted as a way of coping.
  • Love on your nervous system and then love on it some more.  Fear- and survival-based operating takes a tremendous toll on the physical body.  Creating safety and stability from within, creates a hospitable environment for your subtle pieces to begin rearranging.  The subtle always creates the gross.

Check out this blog for more on the nervous system and adrenal health.  Check out this article I wrote in Rebelle Society on trauma.

Above all, stay open, curious, and quit trying to “let go” and instead, re-frame, rework, rebirth, rearrange the subtle pieces into a new gross experience where all of you is welcome and neededTransmute the present challenge and resistance into ease, purpose, and allowance.  Need help?  Reach out to me and schedule a complimentary session to discuss your needs.


I’m Devon Battaglia, MS, NC, RYT and I am a Holistic Life, Relationship, & Wellness Mentor + Earth Medicine Intuitive + Alchemist + Spiritual Guide helping people to heal their four bodies and create sustainable lifestyle and health transformation through plant spirit medicine and gem elixirs, holistic nutrition counsel, lifestyle coaching, vibrational healing, virtual workshops and courses, and other mystical goodness.  Through my unique approach, my clients fall madly in love with themselves and their bodies, awaken their inner healers, recognize self-care as a sacred duty, and enjoy more ease through identifying the roots of their perceived challenges and transmuting them into gold!  I blend the best of both worlds with Western science and ancient metaphysical wisdom for the ultimate experience.  Sign up for 5 Days to Ignite Your Metamorphosis to experience shifts right away.  If you feel called to work together, please schedule a complimentary, magical Discovery Session.

The 7 Pieces of TRUE Healing

The 7 Pieces of TRUE Healing

Do you feel like you’ve been fighting against the current for way too long? Are you tired of being a perpetual project? I’m not going to ask you if you’re ready for the truth, because I already know that you are. You’re ready for TRUE healing.

You’ve tried all that other stuff and it just doesn’t work, does it? Maybe you found a way to something that you thought you wanted, like a few pounds lost or temporarily improved relationships, but it never lasts. It doesn’t last because it’s not real, and you’re still not happy. In other words, it’s not sustainable.

TRUE healing comes from true power, and true power is not about forcing some change into your life with an iron will and white-hot determination. True power is subtle.

 

The physical body that you occupy in this dense, physical world is made up of many subtle parts and forces all working together. TRUE healing happens when these subtle pieces are brought into harmonious alignment with your intentions and desires. This means that if you’re trying to “fix” the physical manifestation of a problem then you’re always going to be applying one quick-fix surface-solution after another.

I’ve used the example of a leaky boat many times before. The gross, physical challenge is that you have water in your boat. The subtle root cause is that pinhole leak down in the bilge. Now, you could keep scooping water out and hope that you don’t sink (and drown), or you could take the time to come ashore and tend to the leak once and for all. It’s in working with the subtle, unseen things that results in real, sustainable change.

I’ve seen that kind of situation far too often, not only with my clients but in my own life, as well. I once lost 75 pounds by dieting with maniacal strictness just to gain it all back when that unsustainable way of life finally and inevitably collapsed. It didn’t last because I hadn’t tapped into my true power to unlock TRUE healing. When I finally did have that breakthrough and started treating myself with love and compassion, taking care of the subtle causes of my dis-ease, I became happier and healthier than I ever was before, and I’ve stayed that way ever since.

I’m saying all of this just to let you know that I’ve danced this dance and I know how it goes. It’s a pattern that gets repeated so often that I’ve decided to put together what I call The 7 Pieces of TRUE Healing. This is not a strict protocol or one-size-fits-all solution. This is just a collection of lessons that I’ve gained from years of practice and trial-and-error. I hope that by understanding The 7 Pieces of TRUE Healing, or even just by understanding the relationship between TRUE healing and true power, you can save yourself some of the time and energy that would have otherwise been wasted. Let’s get started.

 


The First Piece of TRUE Healing

 

The first piece of TRUE healing is deep and whole embodiment. Your body is the physical platform on which your nervous system rides and is the vessel through which all of your worldly experiences are processed. Made with the minerals of the Earth and enlivened with the energy of your spirit, this body is the anchor that allows you to explore worlds inside and out while still having a safe place to land.

Pay attention when you’re feeling triggered or like life is starting to get crazy or out of control. How are you perceiving textures? What thoughts, mental stories, or emotional responses are you feeling? Track the sensations that arise while engaging with the physical body and I promise you will discover the most profound insights.

Deep embodiment starts with compassionate presence. Resist judging yourself for feeling a certain way or having a certain perception. If you recoil from your own embodied experience then you’ll never achieve that depth for which you’re longing. Be present and honest and compassionate with yourself right where you are in this moment.

It may feel silly to ask yourself how you’re doing or what you need, especially when there’s no response, but remember that you’re building trust with yourself. There are parts of you that were perhaps forced into silence from childhood, and other parts that had been stifled in adolescence and adulthood, and those parts need to be coaxed back out and allowed to live and breathe. Years of neglect won’t be forgotten on the first try. Building trust with yourself is like building trust with a child, and you know how you build trust with a child? You show up, every single day, rain or shine. Just keep showing up. Keep showing up every single day, until you can learn to trust yourself again.

Something else that you need to be aware of when engaging with the physical body is that our bodies are living records that tell stories going back several generations. I’m not just talking about genetics here. I’m talking about how our ancestors have experienced trauma in their own lives that caused physical and energetic imprints that changed them and have been passed down to us. This doesn’t have to be all mystical and esoteric, it can be as simple as a story about a grandparent who survived the Great Depression and has passed on a sense of scarcity and thus a fear of taking risks. These kinds of traumas affect us physiologically and psychologically and you don’t have to be a spiritually-minded person to see how far the fruit falls from the tree!

 


The Second Piece of TRUE Healing

 

The second piece of TRUE healing is creativity and sacred sexuality. Sadly, we live in a day and age where shame and guilt have become part of the collective burden that we all share. Shame is the biggest obstacle to TRUE healing, especially when it causes us to lose touch with our creativity and sacred sexuality through unmet needs and unspoken boundaries. Shame causes a disconnect that prevents us from knowing or acknowledging what’s truly pleasurable to us. If we don’t know what’s pleasurable to us how will we ever have a truly present, nourishing, abundant, and purposeful life?

There’s a tragic spiral that so many of us get caught in where we feel shame or guilt about something that we’ve been taught is wrong, and so we turn to other things like food, booze, or drugs, and then we become ashamed of that behavior, too. As shame piles upon shame we get wedged further and further away from what we really need and embodying our authentic essence.

What we need is to allow ourselves to receive pleasure, and to access higher states of consciousness that are available to us when we’re in creative flow, or when we’re allowing pleasure, especially sexual pleasure, into our lives. By reconnecting with these aspects of ourselves we are uniting our earthly selves with our higher selves to create a relationship, a third energy, that gets to be our Heaven-on-Earth.

 


The Third Piece of TRUE Healing

 

The third piece of TRUE healing is exercising your personal power. One of the biggest jokes in life is that we are somehow powerless or simply victims of circumstance. You are the creator of your own experience. You have created everything! Your subtle inputs have created your gross experience. If you don’t like the physical byproduct of your subtle realms, you have the power to recreate and rebirth it.

I’m not criticizing or blaming anybody for how they live or how they feel. I’m inviting you to consider something very carefully. If you’ve created your current status quo based on pacification and sleepwalking, doing what you’ve been taught and hiding behind armors and masks (I mean look around you, you created this!), imagine what you could create when you decide to wake up and act from a place of clarity and conscious intention. This awakening is radically different than what we’ve been shown and if what we’ve been shown worked, there would be a lot less dis-ease in our physical experiences.

 


The Fourth Piece of TRUE Healing

 

The fourth piece of TRUE healing is unconditional love and acceptance. In the first piece of true healing, I invited you to be compassionate with yourself while you re-establish that connection to the physical body. Now I’m challenging you to go a step further. Don’t just tolerate yourself, but love and accept yourself unconditionally.

That’s the only way to actualize (and maintain) the sustainable change that we’ve been talking about this whole time. Remember that 75 pounds of lost-and-found-again weight that I had mentioned? The first time I lost it wasn’t with an attitude of self-love and self-acceptance. That’s why the weight came back. I still had something to learn from it, that fear and punishment from the outside-in are not sustainable ways to make change. It has to be love and acceptance, from the inside-out.

We must forgive and honor every single step of our journey that has brought us to where we are, right here and now.

And if forgiveness is something that you are struggling with, either in forgiving yourself or another person, then you need to know that this is a sign that there’s a part of yourself that you’re not loving.  Sometimes we internalize what other people say or do. We find a way to blame ourselves and create shame and guilt that gets directed inward. So there’s that part of ourselves that we set up as an effigy to be burnt for all the world’s wrongs, and that’s the part that needs our love and forgiveness the most. It has to start within.

 


The Fifth Piece of TRUE Healing

 

The fifth piece of TRUE healing is compassionate self expression. Expression is detoxification. Period. Consider that the brain is the single most energy-consuming organ in the body. Your heart, a ball of muscle constantly pushing viscous fluids through miles of tubular veins and arteries. Your lungs, which cycle hundreds of cubic feet of air every day, neither of these organs even come close to the amount of chemical energy required by your brain on a daily basis.

So if you imagine a pie that represents your daily energy intake, the biggest slice would go to your brain. Now, imagine that big slice gets divided into smaller slices that represent the things you do with your brain. How big would the slice be that represents the things you’re not expressing? It takes a lot of energy to stifle your truth. What if it weren’t a pie, but a clock that ticks away not just hours and minutes, but your whole life? Life is a series of days, and every day you’re dedicating some of your pie, some precious ticks of your clock, to holding yourself back. Your time and energy are being drained by your silent self-created vampire named Fear.

We’re highly sensitive creatures, and we’re so unique, it all adds up to a fear of expressing that uniqueness. But when we finally do express it’s a moment of healing, not only for ourselves but for the collective at-large. When we stifle our expression we are doing more than just denying ourselves. We’re missing an opportunity to teach, to learn, to bond, and to impact someone’s life. This mental and emotional traffic jam creates pile-ups that derail our health and vitality, creating toxicity in our whole system. Move that energy, let it flow!

 


The Sixth Piece of TRUE Healing

 

The sixth piece of TRUE healing is strengthening the intuition. Only we know what’s best for us. Only we can receive our visions and our dreams. Our intuition is often challenged because we live in our heads and favor what’s “logical” or “scientifically proven” over our innate knowing.

Being lied to about reality despite knowing the contrary can also create a disconnect. We often see this in people that grew up in dysfunctional households, especially if there was drug or alcohol use. Children have the greatest intuition because they haven’t been taught to mistrust themselves. When kids are in a situation where they know that what they’re seeing isn’t normal but the adults around them are normalizing it they can be trained not to listen to their gut feelings.

We can experience this as adults as well, when we know something’s not right but we’re being told the opposite. This happens a lot in our fast-paced disinformation-age of alternative facts that has us checked out of our bodies, our instincts, and our intuition. This why the first piece of TRUE healing is embodiment. Deep embodiment will always be the foundation and the anchor. Intuitive knowings present themselves in your physical body, and your physical body is your translator, it’s your messenger.

Strengthening your intuition is key on your true healing journey. I don’t care what you are wishing to transmute and manifest in your life, be it a new job or your relationship or your physical health, intuitively knowing what is best for you and trusting that intuition is crucial.

 


The Seventh Piece of TRUE Healing

 

The seventh piece of TRUE healing is connecting to Source. It is imperative that we connect to a higher power of our own understanding. It takes a lot of pressure off of us to know that the whole universe isn’t just resting on our shoulders. It helps us to soften and surrender to the currents of life.

There is a primal force which animates and enlivens all things, and it’s in you, too.

If you see that as a divine entity or energy or spirit, great! Whatever works for you. I just want to be clear that what I’m telling you here is not in conflict with any religion or spirituality that you practice. I’ve been asked before, many times, if somebody can still be [insert religion here] and also practice this kind of spirituality and I’m telling you that whatever it is that you see as the mover-of-all-things is something that you need to have a felt connection with for multilevel healing and support. Your connection to the universe is a relationship, and all relationships require tending and deepening. If anything this will make you a better practitioner of whatever religion it is that you ascribe to!

The 7 Pieces of TRUE Healing offer a fluid, living, breathing framework that is applicable to any situation and challenge you may encounter. Through employing these principles, you’ll deepen your relationship with your body, your needs, and your authentic essence. You’ll come to know, through compassionate self-witnessing and self-inquiry, what you most need and how to receive it. TRUE Healing is never linear. It is a sacred spiral. Join the dance and find your own sacred steps.

 

 


I’m Devon Battaglia, MS, NC, RYT and I am a Holistic Life, Relationship, & Wellness Mentor + Earth Medicine Intuitive + Alchemist + Spiritual Guide helping people to heal their four bodies and create sustainable lifestyle and health transformation through plant spirit medicine and gem elixirs, holistic nutrition counsel, lifestyle coaching, vibrational healing, virtual workshops and courses, and other mystical goodness.  Through my unique approach, my clients fall madly in love with themselves and their bodies, awaken their inner healers, recognize self-care as a sacred duty, and enjoy more ease through identifying the roots of their perceived challenges and transmuting them into gold!  I blend the best of both worlds with Western science and ancient metaphysical wisdom for the ultimate experience.  Sign up for 5 Days to Ignite Your Metamorphosis to experience shifts right away.  If you feel called to work together, please schedule a complimentary, magical Discovery Session.

A Multilevel Approach to Healing the Adrenal Glands

A Multilevel Approach to Healing the Adrenal Glands

The subtle creates the gross. 

Challenges we experience in our physical existence (our bodies, health, lives, relationships) are simply mirroring an imbalance, dysfunction, or state of dis-ease in our subtler bodies (the emotional, mental, and spiritual layers). 

Struggles with the adrenal glands and the hormones responsible for proper energy and circadian rhythms have their roots in stress – physiologically impacting the delicate hormonal dance between our brain and adrenals and energetically impacting our root chakra and all it metaphorically encompasses. 

How does this happen?  Unprocessed trauma that makes us more susceptible to the ill-effects of daily stress.  Stress and trauma are compounding.  Undigested blockages stack on top of each other and the system’s vital energetic flow goes towards trying to manage the mountain of “foreign invaders” (the energetic and physiological residue of the compounding stress). 

This means that daily maintenance required by the system on all levels is maintained only halfheartedly, or depending upon the stage of the undigested blockage, completely neglected.  Additionally, the traumas in question don’t necessarily have to happen to you in your lifetime; they can also be ancestral and handed down through the lineage.

This is how dis-ease manifests on the physical body. 

The subtle bodies send their messages and warnings and we fail to pay attention, identify and honor the needs.  The subtle creates the gross, remember?  The subtle, and now dysfunctional, building blocks of our system on all levels create an undesired gross experience.

The most interesting part of the dis-ease process is how it manifests and in which area of our physical experience and how our physical body produces its signs and symptoms of dis-ease.

In cases of adrenal insufficiency (or “adrenal fatigue” as it’s more commonly known), there’s a chronic state of nervous system activation – hyper-vigilance, fear, survival-based operating, and doing anything to remain “safe.”  This is why many sufferers are also perfectionists with type-A personalities and relentless inner critics.  They may also be in the habit of engaging in “victim mode” and viewing the world as unsafe and predatory. 

While dietary, lifestyle (proper exercise and stress management resources, for example), herbal and nutrient interventions can work wonders, they aren’t the panacea. 

True healing must begin within and on the subtle levels so they can then create the desired gross experience. 

You can’t heal anything while continuing to operate from the same paradigm that bred the current dysfunction.    

Flower Essences and other energetic interventions used in conjunction with practices like Personal Alchemy, yield lasting and profound results.  For addressing issues in the root chakra (the space at the base of our spine and perineum that includes all basic human needs and survival and safety), tree medicine is typically the most potent. 

a very brief guide to essences for healing the adrenal challenges:

  • Finding Stability & Safety: Red Cedar, Pecan, Magnolia, St. John’s Wort, Angelica, Potato
  • Issues with Perfectionism: Skullcap, Blue Vervain, Blue Spruce, Pine
  • Enhancing Self-Trust & Divine Connection: Prickly Pear, Passionflower, Magnolia
  • Releasing General Anger & Resentment: Thistles, Nettles

This is a very, very brief introduction into the many flower essences available to peel the layers of subtle wounds and create a more balanced physical experience.  It is always best to turn to an experienced, compassionate Flower Essence Therapist to guide your healing journey.

Additional Considerations:

  • Herbs & Botanicals. Mother Earth has provided all the medicine we need and while flower essences support the subtle bodies in creating the desired gross experience, herbs and botanicals offer more direct support to the physical while it is “catching up” and the subtle blocks are rebuilding it. 
    • Adaptogens and nervines soothe a fried nervous system and support hormonal balance
      • Ashwagandha, licorice, reishi, holy basil, rhodiola, astralagus, chamomile, skullcap, lavender
  • Root Chakra Clearing & Healing practices. Practices such as Kundalini yoga, breath work, expressive arts therapy, somatic movement, journey and shadow work, and more can be very beneficial in healing and identifying the core story that is creating the physical imbalance.
  • Release what no longer serves you – but like, for real this time.
    • What outdated grudges or beliefs are you holding onto that no longer serve?
    • How do you view yourself?
    • Does your life, for the most part, bring you joy, contentment, and a sense of purpose?
    • Do you fully love and accept yourself, just as you are right now?
  • A thriving spiritual life and daily practice strengthens your connection to the divine within.  It is our divinity that sustains us and sparks our ability and desire to successfully heal our bodies and our lives. 
    • How do you connect to the divine within? 
    • Do you have a daily practice for feeding your spiritual body? 
  • Your vessel is a sacred temple
    • Is your current lifestyle conducive to feelings of safety and stability?
    • Are you properly feeding your physical body?  “Properly” is different for everyone and fluctuates in any given season and life stage.  
    • How do you deeply honor and care for yourself?   

The physical body is a mirror.  What is yours telling you?  What needs to be addressed on the subtle level?  The physical body is slower than your subtle bodies as it’s created by these tiny, energetic building blocks over time.   Compassion, patience, and disciplined self-love are crucial during any healing process.

Working with an experienced plant medicine practitioner and intuitive mentor who can also guide in nutrition and appropriate lifestyle and supplementation will have your subtle and gross experiences regenerating in your desired frequency.

Curious about learning more on healing with the chakra system, plant medicines, herbal elixirs, and Personal Alchemy?  Click here to receive my complimentary guide. 


I’m Devon Battaglia, MS, NC, RYT and I am a Holistic Life, Relationship, & Wellness Mentor + Earth Medicine Intuitive + Alchemist + Spiritual Guide helping people to heal their four bodies and create sustainable lifestyle and health transformation through plant spirit medicine and gem elixirs, holistic nutrition counsel, lifestyle coaching, vibrational healing, virtual workshops and courses, and other mystical goodness.  Through my unique approach, my clients fall madly in love with themselves and their bodies, awaken their inner healers, recognize self-care as a sacred duty, and enjoy more ease through identifying the roots of their perceived challenges and transmuting them into gold!  I blend the best of both worlds with Western science and ancient metaphysical wisdom for the ultimate experience.  Sign up for 5 Days to Ignite Your Metamorphosis to experience shifts right away.  If you feel called to work together, please schedule a complimentary, magical Discovery Session.

The Importance of Staying Connected to Self

The Importance of Staying Connected to Self

Last week was really busy for me and my partner. We’ve been working hard to improve our offerings through InnerSpark (like our new podcast; please subscribe here).  There were extra things around the house that have needed to be planned and researched, going to and from appointments, and worst of all was an injury suffered by our canine companion, Winslow (who’s probably had the hardest time of all, though he’s getting better now). It’s been a hell of a week and it has highlighted the importance of something that gets ignored or forgotten far too often these days: staying connected to Self.

I’m using Self with a capital S but that doesn’t mean that you have to think of this in any esoteric sense. When you are in right relationship with yourself, you will naturally come into right relationship with your Higher Power. The two are inseparable, so it really doesn’t matter if you want to reconnect with self or with Self, because they are always hand in hand.

I see this progression in my clients a lot: between working or running a business and running a household, it can feel like taking care of ourselves is a “luxury” and not a necessity.  After each task, the question becomes, “What’s next so I can be ‘productive’?” and there’s a very narrow definition of what it means to be productive. We look for things with measurable results and dedicate ourselves to those things in every moment, giving them our precious time and energy.

Moments become days and days become weeks, and at the end of it there’s just exhaustion.

Work that was once loved is now dreaded and everything just feels too heavy to lift. Our own bodies can seem like cumbersome things to be dragged through the day. Our minds become unfocused while even our eyelids start to feel like steel doors that we struggle to keep from closing.  The tragedy is that while we’re operating in this mode of “productivity,” we’re actually delivering less and less quality where we need it most.

When we push ourselves to work harder than we should, we are making a choice to ignore our own voice and that is the very act of turning away from our Self.

Our connection to Self is the source of our creativity and all authentic expression. How can we be connected when we’re turning away?

I cannot over emphasize how important it is to keep coming back to Self. When you take the time to reconnect with your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual levels, you are bringing those four bodies into harmony and the resulting energy and potential can be incredible.

Re-establish Your Integrative Connection

The way we achieve this harmony is going to be different for each of us and can change over time. One important thing to remember is that self-care doesn’t just mean that you break your back all week and then go to a spa on the weekend. Self-care is a constant process that has to happen every single day.

Treat yourself with enough kindness to check in with your body and do some stretching. Notice where there is tension or looseness. Don’t try to change it, just move with it and acknowledge it. If you can lie down on your back with your legs and feet up a wall for a few minutes you’ll find that such a dramatic shift in perspective can cause immediate changes in your circulation and thought patterns.

(If you’re having a hard time slowing down and settling in then try the mindfulness meditations here.  You could also try this guided meditation or this guided video for some hands on self-healing.)

Your Physical Body

Whether lying, sitting, or standing, take a few deep breaths and observe your physical body. Bring your focus from the bottoms of your feet all the way up to the top of your head, slowly, thanking each part for its existence and thinking about how each part has served you. Think also about how you want to use them in the future. Do your hands want to craft something, do your legs want to run? If you can have a conversation with your body and appreciate the wants and needs of your various interconnected parts, then you’re sure to have a strong, healthy, and loving connection.

(Learn more about the Four Bodies and Whole Being Nourishment approach to the physical body here.)

Your Emotional Body

Check in with your feelings and respect them as parts of your emotional anatomy. How is your anxiety doing? How is your joy doing? Do not judge or dismiss your emotions any more than you would a part of your physical body. The analogy to the physical body is very simple, there are parts we show off and parts that we keep to ourselves, both physically and emotionally, but that doesn’t mean that any part is less worthy of our love.  Again, get the conversation going and the connection will be there.

(Learn more about the emotional body here.)

Your Mental Body

Are your creative and analytical sides being under-used or over-stimulated? Are you allowing distractions to derail or put extra miles on your trains of thought? Are you learning and growing, engaging your mind in challenges? Discover, discuss, and connect.

(Learn more about the mental body here.)

Your Spiritual Body

The way you approach spiritual matters is going to determine how you connect with your spiritual body. If “spiritual” isn’t resonating, think of this subtle realm of your existence as your “energetic body” or even “subtle body.”  You may just ask yourself how you feel spiritually/energetically and then see what answers come up, or you may have a more systematic approach. Some people understand the spiritual or energetic body as layers of aura, while others may rely more heavily on the chakra system. Whichever feels resonant, do not neglect this most important layer of your being as the subtle dictates the creation of the gross in every way imaginable. 

(Learn more about the spiritual body here, and if you want to take a more in depth look at the chakras and how we use them then click here to sign up for our free eBook: Your Guide To Personal Alchemy!)

  • As you have these conversations, it’s important to ask each part what they need. Maybe your mental body could benefit from picking up an old hobby like playing a musical instrument from time to time. Maybe for you it’s puzzles or poetry or scripture.
  • Also, you may notice that whatever is being held in one area will be echoed in others. A spiritual concern can weigh on us mentally and make us emotionally raw. Mental and emotional dis-harmony will manifest itself as physical dis-ease.

Being exhausted and dis-jointed is like having four people trying to push a stalled car when they’re all pushing in different directions. Bringing these bodies into harmony is like getting those four people to work together.

Keep checking in with yourself several times each day and try to turn these many conversations into one flowing relationship where the connections between physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual wellness are solid and supported.

Our four bodies have served us well and it’s only right to serve them in return.


I’m Devon Battaglia, MS, NC, RYT and I am a Holistic Life, Relationship, & Wellness Mentor + Earth Medicine Intuitive + Alchemist + Spiritual Guide helping people to heal their four bodies and create sustainable lifestyle and health transformation through plant spirit medicine and gem elixirs, holistic nutrition counsel, lifestyle coaching, vibrational healing, virtual workshops and courses, and other mystical goodness.  Through my unique approach, my clients fall madly in love with themselves and their bodies, awaken their inner healers, recognize self-care as a sacred duty, and enjoy more ease through identifying the roots of their perceived challenges and transmuting them into gold!  I blend the best of both worlds with Western science and ancient metaphysical wisdom for the ultimate experience.  Sign up for 5 Days to Ignite Your Metamorphosis to experience shifts right away.  If you feel called to work together, please schedule a complimentary, magical Discovery Session.

The Root of Experience: One Gift and Two Meditations

The Root of Experience: One Gift and Two Meditations

I want to share with you something that is very sacred to me. You’ve probably heard of it before, “mindfulness”, and it saddens me that you’ve also probably heard it misused, so I beg you to have an open mind and receive this gift as if it were something totally new.

Mindfulness and meditation have become trendy lately and the essence has become trivialized and diluted by popular culture.  I’d like to invite you back to the heart of this ancient practice.

It is a practice that has helped me to become who I am more fully. Without it, I wouldn’t be here. I wouldn’t have this beautiful partnership in my marriage. I wouldn’t be doing this meaningful and fulfilling work. I wouldn’t know myself. I hope that you will join me in a discussion on mindfulness with a hope as deep as my love for my life and everyone in it, because that’s what mindfulness has meant to me.

Mindfulness, put very simply, is the state of maintaining conscious awareness of your present experience.

It sounds so simple that one has to wonder why it’s even worth mentioning, but an appreciation of mindfulness can be felt as soon as we admit that we spend most of our lives unmindfully. The truth and importance of this is like a thread as thin as a spider’s silk, it can be missed in the space between breaths.

Why is it so important to maintain present awareness?

At our core we are good people, but our inherent goodness gets distracted by impulsive and unmindful behavior. These episodes of unmindfullness can manifest as one-off mistakes or bad habits. All of these mistakes and bad habits add up to poor health, neglected emotional bodies, failed relationships, bypassing our Soul’s calling, and wasted years.

One example that goes from the subtle to the gross in a very quick and obvious way is mindful consumption. Mindfully selecting our food means that we are more likely to make dietary decisions that benefit us in the long run instead of giving in to impulses that we regret later. When we eat mindfully we notice how the food makes us feel, and we also notice when we’ve had enough. If we’re not mindful we can over eat, and we all know what a habit of over eating can do to the physical body’s vitality.

Mindful consumption doesn’t stop with just our bodies. With mindfulness we can see where the parts of our meal came from. If my meal contains animal products, where did those come from? What conditions did the animal live and die under? How does that affect me? How does it affect the world, and is it something that I want to support?

Where did my vegetables come from? (Growing our own is not only healing, but incredibly sustainable.)  Were the farmer’s methods kind and sustainable and co-creative with Mother Earth? How does this affect me? How does it affect the world, and is it something that I want to support?

Keep in mind that consumption is not just what we eat or drink. It’s everything that we take in with our senses. This includes entertainment and even simple conversations. Mindfully observing our sources of entertainment, we might find that some of these things are harmfully exploitative. Conversations about people who are not present, words meant to divide people, words sharpened to hurt people, gossip, these things all have their negative effects on us and the people around us. All of this is consumption for our physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual bodies, so what is this doing to our health as individuals and as a collective society?

I cannot list here all the ways that mindfulness can be applied in our daily lives, in the way we communicate with people, how we take care of ourselves, the list is endless, but I can share with you some mindfulness practices that have helped me along the way. And yes, it is a practice.

Being mindful is a skill that we can use to regain control of our lives and live up to our highest values, so please, practice with me.

Mindful Breathing

I recommend this as a daily practice of at least 10 minutes. You can break that up into smaller blocks throughout the day, if you wish. Increase your time or the number of smaller blocks as you grow more comfortable with the practice. Personally, I like to practice for 15 minutes, take a mindful walk outside (more on Walking Meditation in a moment), then sit for another 15 minutes. It’s wise to do this as a regular practice because your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual bodies will develop the ability to come into mindfulness more easily throughout the day. It’s a good habit that will follow you wherever you go.

To start, pick a comfortable place where you can sit for a few minutes without distraction. I have a meditation cushion and I find that a good seated posture helps me to get a deeper meditation for longer periods of time, but the really important thing in the beginning is to be comfortable and free from distraction. You can even do this lying down if you’d prefer.

Once you have a place picked out you might want to set some sort of timer. A traditional way to time meditation is by burning short sticks of incense. You can also use a timer, but I find the alerting sound is too jarring. You could also play a recording of chanting or music that has a duration which fits your meditation goals. The point is that you should be able to decide that you’re going to sit for a certain amount of time and not worry about it. Mindfulness is about presence, and if you’re fretting over a wrist watch or a clock on the wall then you’re not being present.

To start, having already set your timer, go ahead and get really comfortable. Ancient texts have described the best meditation posture as being “like a harp string, not too tight and not too loose.” You will be comfortable longer if your head is supported by your spine, your spine is supported by your hips, and your hips are supported by a good cushion. As one teacher put it, imagine the sky is balanced upon your head like a stack of books.

For the sake of brevity, I’ll let you know that there’s nothing special that you need to do with your hands, but if you want to learn more about how to engage your hands in meditation then feel free to look up “mudras.” For now, just do whatever is comfortable, which may just mean your hands are resting in your lap, palms up like you’re carrying a bowl, right hand under left.

Now take a full, deep breath and hold it for a couple heartbeats then let it out slowly, pausing for a couple beats at the bottom of the exhale. You can do this with your eyes closed or open, but if they are open then you must do one of two things: either pick something to be your focus, like spot on a wall, carpet, or a picture, or let your focus go soft and relaxed, focusing on nothing at all. I recommend closed for beginners so that blinking does not become a distraction.

This is where the discipline starts. You are either focused on something intentionally, or you are intentionally focused on nothing at all, either way you have control of your eyes and are making a mindful choice about what to do with them, not just letting them wander aimlessly.

After you’ve established your posture and taken a few deep breaths you can allow yourself to breath normally. Just watch the breath as it comes and goes, observing the body doing its work. When you have thoughts come up in your mind in the form of words or figures, don’t fight them back or anything, just return your attention to the present, to your breath. If your breath is long, be aware of its length. If your breath is short, be aware of its shortness. That’s it.

You may have the urge to fidget, to itch your nose or something like that. Just observe the sensation and return to your breath. It’s okay; you don’t have to respond to every itch, rise to every provocation, or indulge in every impulse, because you have a choice.

Now if you feel like you really must scratch that itch, or move your leg because it’s fallen asleep, or fix your posture, then do so mindfully. Make the conscious choice to do so and observe your movements as you do it. Make the distraction part of the practice. Every movement is a choice, just like every word you speak is a choice. If you can’t manage to do something as simple as mindfully sitting still and breathing, then how can you mindfully navigate the complexities of love and life?

Just keep coming back to the breath.

Walking Meditation

If you have a nice quiet area to walk, then you might try Walking Meditation. You could do this in a park or in your back yard. I like walking around the outside of my house. Either way, if you have an area that allows you to walk for about 10 minutes or so without being interrupted then you’re good.

Start off standing comfortably, balanced on your feet and taking a few deep breaths just like in seated meditation. Feel your connection with Earth and know that She is supporting you.

When you’re ready, lift your left heel off the ground, breathing in slowly as you do so. Notice the shift in your balance as you feel your left foot separate from the ground, heel to toe. Lifting the left foot, take a step forward, keeping the right foot planted the whole time. Feel the left heel touch the ground and roll your foot down to Earth as you finish your inhale.

Only once the inhale is complete and the left foot is firmly planted should you then lift the right foot and begin your exhale. Lifting and placing it just like you did before. It’s very important to keep the step and the breath in time with each other. Move one foot as you’re breathing in. Move the other foot as you’re breathing out.

Just like with seated meditation, your gaze should be deliberate, watching the path in front of you and not flitting around at every impulse. If you need to look around, then come to a stop and do so with intention. It’s even okay to stop and look at a pretty flower so long as you do it mindfully and intentionally, always coming back to the breath.

Now you have two simple practices to help you develop the mindfulness required for authentic and embodied living and hopefully a firmer understanding of its importance and overall implications in your life. Remember that every step you take is a choice: every step on this path, every step in your journey, it’s all the same. This is a sacred part of my practice and I offer it to you as freely as it was given to me, a gift that I pray serves you well and enables you to keep your dedication to your Highest Self intact and as easy as breathing.

 


I’m Devon Battaglia, MS, NC, RYT and I am a Holistic Life, Relationship, & Wellness Mentor + Earth Medicine Intuitive + Alchemist + Spiritual Guide helping people to heal their four bodies and create sustainable lifestyle and health transformation through plant spirit medicine and gem elixirs, holistic nutrition counsel, lifestyle coaching, vibrational healing, virtual workshops and courses, and other mystical goodness.  Through my unique approach, my clients fall madly in love with themselves and their bodies, awaken their inner healers, recognize self-care as a sacred duty, and enjoy more ease through identifying the roots of their perceived challenges and transmuting them into gold!  I blend the best of both worlds with Western science and ancient metaphysical wisdom for the ultimate experience.  Sign up for 5 Days to Ignite Your Metamorphosis to experience shifts right away.  If you feel called to work together, please schedule a complimentary, magical Discovery Session.

Working With the Energies of the Moon Phases

Working With the Energies of the Moon Phases

I have always had a deep love affair with the moon.  Her cycles and phases and changes have delighted and excited me for as long as I can remember.  I was born literally hours before a new moon and feel it’s no coincidence that I’ve always been especially partial to her when she’s in her dark phase.  I speak of the moon and metaphors and symbols associated with her and Earth wisdom frequently in my work.  Working with the energies of the moon phases can seriously change your life. 

Recently, I had a client confess to me that they neither had any idea of what a “waxing or waning moon” was nor how to use the different implications in their lives.

I imagine she’s not alone.  As we move farther away from living in a co-creative dance with Nature and continue to pin “it” as something outside ourselves, many are simply lost and confused.

The moon is our subtler, emotional, energetic aspect.  She’s the place of our wisdom and primal Shakti or feminine power – regardless of your sex.  Each of the four phases corresponds metaphorically with a season and with one of the four parts of our breath cycle.  The moon orbits around the Earth in an unending, spiral way.  It takes roughly 29.5 days for a full cycle – new moon to new moon.

New Moon

Energetically corresponds with winter and the complete exhale or space between exhale and next inhale.

This is the darkest time in the night sky and we can’t actually see her, but we can feel her deeply.  There’s an old saying, “The darker it is, the better you can see.”  This is how a new moon feels to me.  It’s a time for deep introspection and reflection, for gaining insight and clarity, for feeling into our energetic and literal fertility, for resting.  This is an ideal time to set intentions and FEEL (not think) into what’s next for you.  Allow yourself to be receptive to the bigger primal force that animates you and surrender to your impulses to create your life.  Your outward energy may be lower and you may feel more tired because of the heightened awareness of your senses and intuition.  The energy is going within to allow you to be the conduit.

Waxing Moon

Energetically corresponds with spring and the inhale.

After seeming to disappear into the great expansive void above, she beings to increase in size once more.  You may notice your energy is also increasing, manifestation is becoming easier, things are being actualized, there’s a greater desire for expansion and playfulness.  Creativity continues to wax, as well.  Let yourself experience new things – new classes, new foods, new places, new people, etc.  Channel that rebirth, maiden energy and naivety and childlike wonder and innocence.

Full Moon

Energetically corresponds with summer and is the fullest inhale or space right before the exhale.

The energy is super potent right now!  Some full moons may leave you feeling like you’re charged and electrified!  She’s at her biggest, brightest, and fullest expression and so are you.  There’s a lot of outward energy at this time.  A stronger desire for socializing and being seen may also be present.  The deep insights and clarity that surfaced at the new moon may also come into clearer focus right now for how they relate to your 3D existence.  The new moon is our liminal space and the full moon is more of the 3D experience.  Pay attention to the themes that emerge through the cycles and how the dots end up connecting.  Don’t forget to recharge and cleanse crystals and other implements under the light of the full moon, too!

Waning Moon

Energetically corresponds with fall and the exhale.

Just as fall brings the bittersweet and melancholy reminder of endings, deaths, and release, the waning moon begins her emptying once again.  This is a time for harvesting, endings, banishing, and ultimately alchemizing experience into wisdom.  This wisdom is the fertilizer for the seeds you’ll plant once more at the following new moon.  The challenges, the victories, the lessons are all part of the experience and this time serves to reiterate this fact.  Nothing stays the same and all is impermanent, every new endeavor and new being will eventually cease to exist in the form it does now, which is the sacredness of this living experience.  What worked?  What didn’t?  What feels yummy?  What feels challenging?

Click here to download my guide to learn how to use rituals, self-care practices, crystals, journal prompts, and more to heal with the moon and deepen into your own essential power. 

Bonus Up-Level Ways to Work with the Moon & Honor the Universal Spiral Principle:

  • Journal practice daily for a moon cycle and check in with the four levels to see what changes over the cycle
  • Daily dedication to your own rhythms and cycles; you are a micro of the macro, after all
  • Plant and harvest by the moon
  • Notice the different feels of different astrological signs – a new moon in Aries feels very differently than a full moon in Aries
  • Host moon circles with beloveds for ritual, fun, healthy potlucks, witnessing, and whatever else feels poignant to you
  • Get outside under the full moon and soak in her velvety light; this is called moon bathing
  • Sleep in total blackness (you shouldn’t be able to see your hand in front of your face) and the night before, of, and after the full moon, open your curtains to allow moonlight to flood your space.  This is balancing to the energy and hormonal systems.

Above all, what I have shared is simply my own embodied experience and yours will differ slightly.  Welcome your own experiences, allow yourself to be very curious, and observe the miraculous flow of primal life force moving through and around you.  Share your insights with me!  I’d love to hear them!

 


I’m Devon Battaglia, MS, NC, RYT and I am a Holistic Life, Relationship, & Wellness Mentor + Earth Medicine Intuitive + Alchemist + Spiritual Guide helping people to heal their four bodies and create sustainable lifestyle and health transformation through plant spirit medicine and gem elixirs, holistic nutrition counsel, lifestyle coaching, vibrational healing, virtual workshops and courses, and other mystical goodness.  Through my unique approach, my clients fall madly in love with themselves and their bodies, awaken their inner healers, recognize self-care as a sacred duty, and enjoy more ease through identifying the roots of their perceived challenges and transmuting them into gold!  I blend the best of both worlds with Western science and ancient metaphysical wisdom for the ultimate experience.  Sign up for 5 Days to Ignite Your Metamorphosis to experience shifts right away.  If you feel called to work together, please schedule a complimentary, magical Discovery Session.