Do you suffer from pesky, unexplained symptoms?  Is there a recurrent theme in your life that prevents you from moving forward or shining brightly? 

Dive deeper into the underlying message to find clarity, wisdom, and healing from within. I invite you to expand your beliefs around conventional understandings of your physical body and open your imagination to explore body part metaphors.

Health and wellness and disease and illness are such beautifully interwoven concepts that impact all layers of our being.  As I’ve said previously, in my own personal experiences and through my studies, I firmly believe that physical dysfunction is the manifestation of emotional, mental, and/or spiritual stagnation, and the product of Feminine Shame.

Frequently Asked Questions About Feminine Shame

What is Feminine Shame?

What is Feminine Shame:
Have you ever felt out of step with the world, simply for embracing the natural ebbs and flows within yourself? At InnerSpark, we define “Feminine Shame” as a deeply ingrained resistance towards that which is cyclical, fluid, nurturing, intuitive, or emotional. It’s the uneasy feeling that arises from being cyclical, intuitive, or in tune with seasonal rhythms in a world that often values linear progress and constants. This disconnect is what distances many from their true essence, their InnerSpark, causing them to feel adrift, overwhelmed, and detached from the comforting rhythms of nature. It’s feeling ashamed of our innate, tender nature in a world that parades “normal” over “natural.”
 
Rooted in centuries-old beliefs, Feminine Shame drives that whispering ghost of “not enough.” It convinces us we’re wrong, unworthy, flawed at our very core. We’ve been conditioned to see our natural state as abnormal, which distances us from our true selves. This tug-of-war between the natural and the “normal” drains us—physically, emotionally, mentally, relationally, spiritually—leading to widespread dis-ease. It’s high time we ask: isn’t it time to bridge that gap? To finally come home to ourselves? That’s where The InnerSpark Method is your guide.

Why Does Feminine Shame Exist?

Why Does Feminine Shame Exist:
From our early years, society hands us a blueprint of how to “fit in.” This blueprint often discounts the beauty of nature’s spirals – the inherent fluctuations and cycles that we, as beings of this Earth, naturally resonate with. When these intrinsic rhythms, intuitions, and emotions are labeled as irregular or inconsistent, it creates a landscape where Feminine Shame finds fertile ground, urging us to adopt the “standard” instead of cherishing our unique spirally essence.

Who Does Feminine Shame Impact?

Who Does Feminine Shame Impact:
Feminine Shame isn’t reserved for a select few. Imagine a shroud, thin but omnipresent, covering everything and everyone. Feminine Shame is that shroud. It blankets us all, an invisible veil impacting every heart. Regardless of gender or anatomy, everyone feels its presence – the nudge to prioritize society’s “shoulds” over the nurturing call of nature. It’s the tension that arises when our natural desire for a holistic, integrative life clashes with societal expectations, leaving us yearning for authentic connections, rhythms, and a return to our true nature.

How Do We Begin to Heal Feminine Shame?

How Do We Heal Feminine Shame:
The path to healing starts with recognizing the value of our innate connection to nature’s cycles. By turning towards our own challenges and deepest desires, and embracing the rhythms that have always been a part of us, we can find grounding and resilience. It’s about harmonizing with nature’s wisdom, tapping into its rhythms for guidance, and shedding the layers that keep us from living organically and authentically. Together, as a community that sees, supports, and validates each other, we transition from feeling fragmented and out of sync to dancing in harmony with life’s beautiful, ever-changing spirals.

I believe a fully integrative and holistic approach is paramount in healing. So, it’s your turn to really become a witness to your entire being and pay attention to the many messages it’s sending you all the time.

Creating Wholeness

Chakras, whether you believe in them or not, correspond with the body’s endocrine glands and energy centers and have various vital functions physically – and emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.  We’ll do the following exercise together and use constipation (something so many clients struggle with) as an example to get your imagination flowing for investigating your own body part metaphors and messages to find connections and ultimately, healing.

• Identify your symptoms and the body part most associated with them. Begin by jotting down all of the clichés, metaphors, literal functions, etc. about this area of the body. In our example of constipation, we have the gut/large intestine: taking in more than can be digested and excreted, biting off more than can be chewed, full, stuffed, sluggish, bigger than space allows for, not releasing, suppressing, withholding, not extracting what’s needed and releasing the rest, wallowing in own waste, lack of ease and flow, uptight, not releasing that which no longer serves.
• Review your list after being as complete as possible (give yourself time for the process – there’s no rush).  Some statements will resonate immediately and will usually evoke a feeling of resistance or wanting to bypass or ignore.  When you feel that, pay attention and circle it.
• Ask yourself: Where’s your mind getting in the way of the natural process of this part/area of your body?   What beliefs are perpetuating this issue? An example of an answer for constipation could be: “I’m noticing an inability to accept what is, therefore, am not fully digesting the present because I resent it and am holding on and waiting for what’s next.  Sometimes it seems easier to wallow in the familiar, despite its (literal) toxicity.”  In this case, we can draw the conclusion that there’s resistance around change and expression.  Both of these functions take courage and an ability to digest experiences and emotions, which come from being self-aware, which comes from being grounded and feeling safe enough to fully embody your Spirit.  See how it all flows?
• As if you’re a neutral third party, analyze your resonating statements (the ones you circled from step 1) and intuitively create some conclusions like the above.  Finally, ask yourself: What’s the connection between what you’ve just discovered and the challenge(s) with which you are currently working?  What’s the most healing step you can take this week to honor, integrate, and acknowledge these valuable messages?

**Clearly, this is an overview and each person will be radically different.  I’m also in no way suggesting that a case of severe or chronic constipation can be solved with the aforementioned strategies and other chronic conditions may not also be present.  However, true healing takes a multifaceted approach.  To take it a step further, however, an underlying condition in our constipation case, for example, could be hypothyroidism (an under active thyroid).  The thyroid is in the throat, the place of truth speaking, speaking up for oneself, voicing one’s needs, etc.  This is where we vocalize and express with the confidence and power that should be flowing freely from the gut, yet is stifled, and if it’s stifled, well, the confidence and power are, too, and there’s not much truth speaking happening…  See the connections?

I could go on and on about this and all of the connections, yet I’ll end here because I want you to begin to get intimate with your own body and its messages.  My hope is for you to truly bridge the perceived divide between your body and your emotions, thoughts, beliefs, and sense of spiritual connection.